Perverting the foundations of love: "If you love me you will accept me the way I am, unconditionally "

One of the most perverted foundations of love, is the prerequisite that, demands that, if one claims one is in love, he/she is unquestioningly, unconditionally and unfalteringly expected to accept the person they say they love, the way he/she is...

"Accept The Person You Love, The Way That Person Is & Who/What/How He/She Is" means accepting Wholeheartedly, Unfaltering, Endlessly, in an Unquestioning, Un-Biased, and Unconditional way, WITHOUT EVER expecting or pressurizing that person to undergo even the slightest pain and struggle to make, change, create or better any or all of those things which A Person Lacks According to you, BUT Which That Person Has Never Been/Is Not Responsible For IT OR Has Never Had OR Hardly Had Any Control Over, For Either A Certain Period Of Time OR FOREVER...
For example, if the person you claim you love, has natural blonde hair and you don't like blonde hair, The truth is, that it is clearly an issue with your taste and proves the shallowness at your end OR say the person you love is short or has saggy breasts or a small penis or doesn't not know how to make love and you secretly or openly have an issue with it, that clearly means that you are extremely shallow and know nothing about Love and should find your self a Sex Item/Whore/Gigolo. OR the Man you say you love is not very educated or not very rich or does not own fancy cars or bikes and if you have an issue with it, it just means that you are a very materialistic person and should look for Rich Males and NOT FOR LOVE. Or if the woman you say you love does not know to cook or clean or look after the babies and you hate her for that, then dont say that you love her or want to marry her, just GO LOOK FOR A SERVANT/NANNY.

These include but are not limited to the following things:

• Physical : Disabilities (Bodily, Sexually - Impotence), Handicaps(paralysis, lost limbs), Illness, Disorders (Gastrointestinal Disorders, Snoring), Abnormalities, Deformities, Birth Marks, Power, Strength, Beauty, Structure, Built, Shape, Size (Facial features: eyes, nose etc. Sex organs: Breasts, Buttocks, Penis, etc), Color of Body or Body Parts (Skin and other External organs) etc.
• Mental : Disabilities, Temperament, Intelligence, Presence of Mind, IQ, Smartness, Memory. etc
• Spiritual : Disabilities, Belief in God, etc.
• Serious Childhood/Teenage Addictions/Bad Habits which are very difficult to stop or get over : Excessive Masturbation, Childhood Sex Addiction, Childhood Drug/Alcohol Abuse etc (THOUGH THESE SHOULD NEVER BE USED AS AN EXCUSE BY new/recent addicts and people trying to get their way out to do all the crap they want to with the pretext of Childhood/Teenage Addictions/Bad Habits.
• Economical: Wealth, Property Assets, etc. 
• Etc.....

Now while this prerequisite of love is so pure and sanct... UNFORTUNATELY, selfish, self-centered and sometimes evil people who pervert love (but who are fortunately being truly loved by someone), use this as a means to emotionally blackmail and pervert its true meaning for getting their way out (legalizing, legitimizing or getting permission) so that they can continue their bad habits, various physical, mental and spiritual (p/m/s) violations or other sins against the one they love and still expect to continue be loved and respected in spite of all the wrong that they are doing.
IN SHORT THEY TRY TO CONFUSE THE PERSON BY MIXING WEAKNESS, SHORTCOMINGS, INABILITIES, DISABILITIES, ETC  THAT ARE GOD/NATURE GIVEN, INEVITABLE PROBLEMS AND CIRCUMSTANCES ETC. WITH BAD HABITS, P/M/S VIOLATIONS OR OTHER SINISTER DESIRES 
For example:
- "You know I love/like/enjoy Drinking or Smoking so if you love me you will love me the way I am and let me continue to drink and smoke...
- "You know I love/like/enjoy Sex with many so if you love me you will love me the way I am and let me sleep around with anyone..."
- "You know I love/like/enjoy to eat junk food so if you love me you will love me the way I am and let me eat all the crap in the universe"
- "You know I am lazy so if you love me you will love me the way I am and let me continue to laze around..."
- "You know I love/like/enjoy to dress slutty so if you love me you will love me the way I am and let me continue to do what I want..."
- "You know I love/like that man/woman/ so if you love me you will let me be with him/her and flirt and commit what ever violation I want..."
- "You know I have always lived a very wasteful, expensive and a life filled with riches so if you love me you will love me the way I am and let me continue to live a wasteful, extravagant and expensive life..."
- "You know I am short tempered and abusive so if you love me you will love me the way I am and never mind me being short tempered and abusive..."

Perversion of the clause "Unquestioningly "
"You know I have always lived an independent life and never needed to be answerable to anyone so if you love me, you will love me the way I am and let me have my own private life and never question me..."

Perversion of the clause "Unconditionally"
"If you love me you will not put conditions and will not stop me from doing any of the things I mentioned above that I want to do"