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I used to think I was qualified, Untill I Learnt the Hard way few years back...
Even though I don't have most of the issues mentioned below, I have had just enough issues/faults at my end, to make the biggest blunders in my life... I am sorry to all, who I, Unintentionally hurt in the past.
I would also like to thank the Women & Females in my life (who made me realize a lot about What Love Is and What Love Isn't) and to my Friends & Students to have shared their personal experiences with me regarding the same...
YOU ARE NOT QUALIFIED TO BE IN LOVE WITH A PERSON IF YOU:
- Don't Know the true meaning of Love or worse you have your own perverted concepts of love (Also Read Perverting the Concepts of life)
- Are Confused and Cant understand your own Feelings and Emotions for another.(Cause a person in Love is NEVER CONFUSED)
- Can't differentiate between Attractions, Infatuations, etc.
- Don't know the Inevitable consequences of Physical, Mental & Spiritual Violations with people you are not in love with.
- Know Can & Will, Lie & Hide from the person you say you Truly love.
- Have not Gotten over you Ex. Boyfriend/Girlfriend/Husband/Wife completely from the core.
- Feel that your Ex was better(even in the smallest way) than the New Person In your life.
- Know you cannot give your 100% to a relationship.
- Are Hormone High and Boy or Girl Crazy.
- Don't know how to COMPLETELY BELONG to someone.
- You have too much ego to submit yourself to the person you love.
- You feel the need to have your own Private/Personal Life, That does not include, the person you cliam you love.
- Look at the person you think, you love, as a Third party and Question or Judge that person for his/her Past(The Time When you were not there), without understanding the Situation from that Person's Point of View.
What is wrong is if that Person has ALWAYS been 100% honest with you about his/her past and you have not been, even half as honest to him/her.
And worst is if you still go around Questioning about that person from other people, NOT BECAUSE: - You want to get to know that person better and be able to love that person more.
- You want to help him/her get over the past horrors, memories or bad habits/addictions etc
- You want to make that person understand his/her past mistakes as its continuing into the present.
BUT TO find faults and hurt that person when caught in a dispute Or to find reasons to get out of the Relationship. - You know you will continue to do things that are detrimental to the Relationship, (Like Spiritual, Mental or Physical Violations, Being Materialistic, etc) that are against the concepts, ethics and protocols of love.
- You are not willing to give up or at least put an effort to give up and don't sincerely feel guilty for your Bad Habits and Addictions. (If you are 100% HONEST and show your sincerity to change, then even the person who you love, will try to understand you and will help you get over it and will be able to forgive you if you ever loose control)
- Know You May Never Be Able Dedicate Your life OR give your all, TO CONNECT COMPLETELY: PHYSICALLY, MENTALLY & SPIRITUALLY WITH THE ONE YOU LOVE. then forget falling in Love. (It is true that some of these connections do take long time, to get established properly, but if you feel from the beginning itself, that you cannot connect, even in one way, then like I said Forget it).
- Are Self-Centered & Selfish.
- Are Materialistic
- It means you will always value materialistic things more than Human Emotions and can skip ethics and morals for achieving anything materialistic. Love will always be secondary for you.
For Eg: If you are a woman who loves a Rich Fancy life with 5 Star Dinners and Expensive Cars & Bikes and World Trips then Forget Love and marry a Rich Bloke, else you will make the normal Man feel like a Looser for your Unjustified wants. In Fact a Woman in True Love will be ready to love and live with a Man irrespective of how rich or influential he is. - Are Shallow enough look specifically only for a Person of particular Skin Color, Figure, Height, Built etc to Love [Though it would be even insulting to call it love.] (Also read Perverting the foundations of love: "If you love m...)
- Because, If you are shallow and you come to know of some aspects of the person that you are with which you did not know before, you will definitely freak out, choke and eventually breakup - CAUSING IMMENSE PAIN TO THE PERSON, WHO YOU, DO NOT DESERVE...
For example:
If you are a Shallow Male who ultimately find out that the Woman you are with, actually has saggy/ugly breasts, or does not have a pretty butt or does not have the Hour Glass figure you fantasize, then you will end up getting turned off, and will eventually hurt and CAUSE IMMENSE PAIN TO THE PERSON, WHO YOU, DO NOT DESERVE...
If you are a Shallow Female with a fetish for big male penises, find out that the Man you are with actually has a small penis, you will keep getting frustrated and will end up ogling guys with a bigger bulge.
In fact I personally have met a woman who used to ogle at the bulges of Men irrespective of who They were. - Are Beauty Oriented/Obsessed
- Because If you end up accidentally being with (Yes most become blind when infatuated) a person who does not match up to you looks or your expectations then suddenly you realized some where down the line you will keep wishing that person was as good looking as Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie depending on if you are a Female or Male respectively)
There was a woman who wanted her boyfriend to undergo pastic surgery so that he could look like her favorite movie star. And another who kept wishing her Boyfriend (Who is much taller than her) was more taller just so that She could wear Higher Heels.
